The internet is an incredible resource and one, no doubt, that we’re all grateful to have – but, when it comes to dating and relationships, it can lead us to have unrealistic expectations of what to expect, as well as potentially leading us to focus on the wrong things, forgetting what’s actually really important where matters of the heart are concerned.
It’s very easy to fall into the trap of viewing the lives of other people through very romanticised glasses. After all, that’s what they want you to do! But the problem with this is that it can make you more critical of where you and your other half are in your relationship and this can lead to all sorts of problems later down the line.
“Relationship goals” is often a phrase you hear bandied about online, often in reference to a range of outlandish ideas and sensibilities that could actually be bad for your partnership – even if they sound great and desirable at surface level.
No doubt you’ve come across those couples who brag about never arguing. At first thought, this sounds wonderful! But don’t forget – arguing and conflict is actually a really healthy part of any positive relationship and it’s how you two deal with the problems you encounter that will determine your strength as a couple.
So there’s one relationship goal that you would do well to avoid pursuing, but what goals are there out there that are actually worth your time? Here are a few from the Select Personal Introductions to help point you in the right direction. Which of these will be at the top of your list?
Maintaining your individuality
Of course, you should get whisked up in the excitement of a new romance and, in fact, it’s absolutely inevitable. But watch out for some pitfalls where this is concerned and make sure that you maintain your own individuality, focusing on you and what you want, what you like to do and how you want to spend your time.
Strong and independent individuals will make for a much stronger, deeper connection – and one that’s far more likely to last the distance.
Focusing on your sex life
Sex is an undeniably important part of any flourishing relationship, so making time for bedroom activities can help strengthen your partnership, as well as improving your emotional intimacy at the same time.
Sex and physical connection can really give you both a wonderful mood boost and you’re sure to feel happier and more satisfied, which will only help to serve your relationship positively in the long term.
Investing in the relationship
Relationships are generally super easy at the beginning and you don’t have to try so hard, but over time life starts to get in the way and, before you know it, you and your other half have drifted apart and you’re not sure how to reignite the fire.
Prevention is always better than cure in this regard, so make sure you’re both investing in the relationship on a regular basis, checking in with each other so you know you’re still connected and still pursuing the same end goal.
Be kind with communication
As we all know, communication is the key to any successful relationship but it’s important to make sure that you prioritise kindness at the same time. It’s not unusual for people in relationships to say unkind things or lash out in frustration… so try not to say something you might regret and aim to be kind in all your communications, even if you don’t agree with your partner!
For help dating in Leeds, get in touch with Select Personal Introductions today.