It can be very hard to be single sometimes, especially when all your friends and family have coupled up and are in what seem to be perfect relationships, happily in love and achieving everything you’ve ever hoped for yourself.Why does it seem to be so elusive for you? Why can’t you find what other people seem to come across so very easily? This is quite a rabbit hole to go down and if you’re not careful, you could find yourself spiralling into anxiety and stress really rather quickly indeed – and it’s important to remember that you won’t find any answers, even if you do follow that particular white rabbit.
It’s also absolutely key to bear in mind that the relationships you’re casting your eye over will most certainly be far from perfect.
Relationships are hard work and you have to try at them each and every day, so even if two people do seem to have what you’re longing for, remember that they too will be facing daily struggles and hardships… ones that you don’t have to worry about at all, thanks to your status as a singleton.
Being single can be an absolute blessing and it’s an amazing chance for you to really discover yourself and spend time with yourself, not by yourself… which is an important distinction to make. Here are just a few ideas that could help you love being single, seeing it as a source of joy, rather than a curse.
You don’t need other people to have a good time. The good time is there to be had – all you need to do is seize the day! Taking yourself on dates is a wonderful way to get to know yourself, so if there’s an event going on that you’d love to go to and you don’t have anyone to go with… just go anyway!
Instead of focusing on what you perceive as negative about being single, think about the positives… you’re sure to find that there are lots!
You can kitchen dance like no one’s watching, make as big a mess at home as you like, leave the washing-up for a week and no one will know, walk around the house naked, do what you want when you want, cook and eat all your favourite food, enjoy sole responsibility for the remote control… the list goes on!
Nurture your other relationships
Being single is an amazing opportunity to not just spend time with yourself, but also with your friends and family, as well.
Maintaining close social connections is important at all times, but especially so when you’re single – and even if you don’t feel like socialising in person, you can always get on the blower for a meaningful conversation whenever you feel like it.
Try new things
Challenging yourself and picking up a few new skills can really increase your sense of self-worth and there’s no better time to try out new hobbies than when you’re single. You have all the time you need to really dedicate yourself to your chosen task and can really focus without having to worry about anyone else. Who knows what you could learn?
Hit the gym
Endorphins are all the rage these days and if you’ve been feeling a little low, hitting the gym or finding a form of exercise that you really enjoy can give you a serious mood boost and make you feel amazing about yourself.
When it comes to exercise, finding something you love to do will really help you make sure you stick with it, whether that’s weight training, cycling, running or something else.
Create gratitude lists
Journaling and writing gratitude lists each day or week can make a huge difference to how you view your own life. You’re not defined by other people and your existence is just as valid when you’re on your own as it is when you’re in a relationship. Writing down what you’re grateful for on a regular basis can really help to remind you of this.
Get off your phone
While the internet can be a force for good, it can also be a force for evil and if you’re suddenly feeling a bit desolate and lonely, it could be down to the amount of time you’re spending on social media.
A study carried out in 2019 actually revealed that negative experiences on sites like Facebook and Instagram are associated with elevated feelings of social isolation… so make sure you’re monitoring just how much time you’re spending scrolling on your phone.
We’d love to hear what your favourite things are about being single, so get in touch with the team at Select Personal Introductions today to let us know. And, of course, when you do feel like you’re ready to find love, our elite dating service can help in this regard, as well.