Over the past two years, the world of relationships took a very different shape, and new relationships and couples that have forged during this time face a unique set of challenges compared to couples who got together beforehand.
Part of the reason for this is that many new relationships start as long-distance ones, and whilst a professional dating agency can help bring people together, keeping people emotionally together whilst physically apart can be difficult sometimes.
It is important to note that there are millions of successful long-distance relationships and the reasons why these succeed are as varied and unique as the people who get together.
However, if you are in a long-distance relationship, whether it started as one or became one as a result of circumstance, here are some tips to help bring that relationship closer.
Answer Each Emotional Call
A close relationship is the result of many interactions and attempts to connect that we respond to often without realising. These interactions, whether the ultimate goal is to receive affirmation, affection, empathy or attention, are known as emotional calls.
In a long-distance relationship, it can be more difficult to respond to these calls; it is harder to hug someone or be physically there to reassure someone during a major life event.
Instead, be clear and intentional about answering these emotional calls. Make any time you talk together or video call each other a priority, and let them know throughout the day that you are thinking of them.
If they know you are there for them despite the distance, it can bring people closer together.
Say ‘I Love You’ A Lot
Long-distance relationships can become incredibly solid and emotionally strong, but because you are spending so much time away from each other, insecurities, jealousy and self-doubt are not uncommon.
Without the opportunity to make the small, meaningful gestures and tactile connections we make when in person, instead be forthright and clear about how much you love your partner.
Saying you love someone does not lose any meaning the more you say it, so be liberal with your assurances.
Be Clear And Ready To Talk
Whilst being able to talk honestly is important in any relationship, long-distance relationships rely almost entirely on communication. Without letting your partner know your thoughts and feelings the relationship cannot blossom.
Try to be calm and avoid causing arguments but be clear about anything that is bothering you and anything you want out of a relationship.
Keep Your Word
Related to being honest about your thoughts and concerns, make sure you keep your promises whenever you make them. This can be as small as making sure you call every time you say you will or as large as avoiding closer temptations or keeping secrets.
In a long-distance relationship, trust is utterly essential, and by ensuring that your intentions are matched up with clear actions, your relationship will remain strong no matter what life throws at both of you.
Support Each Other’s Interests
One of the most wonderful parts of any relationship is how each person grows, develops and learns about themselves, and a key part of a long-distance relationship getting closer is getting to know each other better and supporting everything that matters to them.
Over the past two years, in particular, many people have taken up new hobbies, such as learning a musical instrument, taking up a sport or exercise regime, or finding a new way to express themselves creatively.
Personal growth in a relationship is a sign of security in a relationship.
Respect Why You Are Apart
Long-distance can be very difficult some days when you are craving that closeness. However, there is often a very good reason why you are far away, whether that be for professional reasons, a family situation or a global crisis.
Being in a long-distance relationship is a long term commitment not only to your significant other but also to yourself. If you can wait, your relationship will be stronger in the end.
Take It Slow In-Person
If your relationship started long distance or you have spent a considerable amount of time away from your partner, it can feel strange once you get a chance to meet up again.
When the time is right, start slowly. Meet up at a cafe or for dinner together, without placing too much pressure on each other and see how everything progresses. If it goes well, see how often you can make this a regular occasion.