Ah, true love! That most coveted and sought-after, yet somehow strangely elusive, ideal. It’s something we all want, something we all strive for, something we would turn the world upside down in order to have for ourselves.
Being in love really is an incredible feeling and there’s really nothing quite like it, but it should come with a warning sign or two, perhaps, because true love can make you do all sorts of weird and wonderful things… like forgetting who you are as a person, what you stand for, what you value and what you want from your life.
We’ve all been there, of course. Strength of emotion can be such that we find ourselves caught up in a bit of a whirlwind, right in the eye of the storm – and everything else we hold dear fades into the background for a bit.
This is entirely natural, but it should also be short-lived and if it continues for too long, you run the risk of sacrificing everything to keep your other half happy. The reality of this, however, is that you are likely to end up doing exactly the opposite and it’s essential that you do all you can to maintain your own individuality in a relationship.
This will ultimately help strengthen your relationship and make sure that you remain satisfied with all areas of your life, not just where romantic matters are concerned.
But how do you go about staying clear and level-headed in the face of all those buzzy love feelings that are flying around? It can be very tricky – but there is a lot you can do, you’ll be pleased to hear!
Find solo hobbies
Of course, you want to do as much together as possible at the start of a new relationship but space is very healthy and will make the time you do have together all the more special. Finding solo activities and hobbies will help you maintain your independence and find new ways to express yourself.
Keep your dreams in sight
Having goals is important and it’s essential that you don’t lose sight of the hopes and dreams you have for your own life when in a relationship. Your partner should offer you support in the pursuit of these, whatever they are – and if your other half isn’t showing up in this regard, it could be that they’re perhaps not right for you after all.
Communicate your needs
Working out what you want and need and then communicating this in an open and honest way with your partner will help you maintain your sense of individuality. This will give your partner an opportunity to support you in a meaningful way – and it paves the way for you to do the same for them.
Maintain social connections
Spending time with your friends and family without your partner is really healthy and it affords you the perfect opportunity to talk about your relationship, helping to shine a light on any potential issues and get help and advice as and when required.
Don’t make too many compromises
When you’re in love, you naturally want to please that special person in your life – but don’t go too overboard where this is concerned, or you could find yourself sacrificing what you want without even really being aware of it. Make sure you stand your ground if there’s something you really want. You won’t regret it!
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