If you’re of a certain age, then you’ve probably heard of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
This was a book written by a US relationship counsellor, John Gray. It has been cited as being the most sold self help book of the 1990s. The premise of the book, is that men and women behave very differently when it comes to relationships as a result of psychological differences. They’re basically are from different planets!
With this in mind, we decided to take a lighthearted look at the differences between men and women when it comes to dating, love and life in general.
Choosing your date
So you’re a man and you’re looking for a date. What is your criteria? The chances are you’ll go for how the woman looks first and foremost. Women tend to go for a nice personality. Sound like a cliche? It’s true. It’s part of the reason that dating apps have become so popular with men. The swiping to see the next potential partner feeds into that desire to go out with someone who looks the part.
You’ll have no doubt noticed that apps such as Bumble are marketed differently because they’re aimed at women making the first move. That’s some pretty smart marketing.
Oh yes, these little devils. Women tend to put more emphasis on feelings, whereas men do not. This is why we tend to see a difference in reactions between men and women, when they’re in situations which generate more emotion. When things start to get a little more complicated (see trouble waters below) then these differences can become much more pronounced. Have you noticed how women will always bring up feelings?
Women don’t tend to care as much that you’ve been able to do that complex bit of DIY as men do. With men it’s all about showing their skills off. This is why men tend to love to boast about their qualifications and that kind of thing. It’s why they love talking about how good they are, for example fishing! The bigger the fish the more skills that guy has… Naturally! If you’re a woman, literally just nod and smile. It does help! But it also explains why women are less likely to put themselves forward for something where they feel their skills are lacking.
Men love to brag
This follows on from the one above, if catch a big fish, then boy do you brag about it! How many times have you heard how bigger, better, louder or faster something was when you’re in a crowd of men? How many times do you see this in the office environment? Nothing like a bunch of lads in an office to up the ante on the bragging front.
Women on the other hand tend to be a bit more shy at coming forward when it comes to the bragging stakes. They tend to be more reserved, and shout less about what they can do, how much they’ve spent, or the engine size of their car!
When things start to go wrong (and not just in a relationship), men tend to clam up. They tend to go into their own heads so that they can work out how to fix things. Women, let’s be honest, tend to go into communication overdrive, which of course makes the man go even more quiet! The woman thinks she’s helping the man, but in reality he probably just wants five minutes peace to gather his thoughts!
Of course this was very much a tongue in cheek look at the differences between men and women. Not all men and women follow these lines and not everyone behaves the same as the stereotype for their sex. This shows how unique we all are. We don’t always fit into stereotypes for our gender, age or nationality.
This is why we love doing what we do. None of our clients are the same and they are all looking for something a little bit different. If you’re looking for someone that little bit different, then why not get in touch? We’d love to hear from you!